If you are debating whether to stay in a marriage or divorce, the conflict within you could be about not wanting to tolerate and put up with a relationship that is not working for you versus the fears of divorce and the comfort of knowing.

Fears of divorce could be, fear of financial hardship, or possible ugliness of the divorce, and mostly the uncertainty of the future.  Most people would rather live with what they know even if it is upsetting because they have gotten accustomed to it than deal with an unknown.

Before you can be clear on what to do, you must alter your relationship with yourself.  First work on yourself to better take care of your physical, mental, and emotional wellbeing.

Taking care of yourself is of utmost importance.

You must make time and effort for physical fitness, whether it is cardio, yoga, weightlifting, walking, or playing tennis or anything that will have you exercise your body on a daily basis or at least three times a week.

You must spend time learning, studying, reading, any area of knowledge or education that interests you for mental strength.

You must strengthen yourself spiritually, whether through meditation, connection with nature, or anything that brings you to a state of gratitude on a daily basis.

Once you form a habit of taking care of yourself, it is easier for you to be an outstanding human being and you are better able to practice compassion, generosity, understanding, and gratitude with your spouse and others.

After you worked on the change within you, then you will notice that the people and circumstances around you start to change too.

Now you can determine whether you want to stay married or divorce.

Remember you have to choose your option best on what is for your highest good.  If it is not for your highest good, it will not work.